General Funeral FAQs

If you have a funeral to attend and are unsure about something, then read our general funeral FAQs for help on some of the most common questions we get asked.

How do you acknowledge the anniversary of a death?

Knowing how to commemorate a death anniversary, especially the first death anniversary, of a loved one is difficult. This day often comes with a mix of emotions so it’s best to do something you feel comfortable with. Remembering a death anniversary could mean visiting where you laid your loved one to rest. Another way to acknowledge this difficult day is to create a tradition with family and friends. This is different for everyone, but you could go on a trip or a walk, cook a meal together or even have a party in their memory.

Can I send a gift when someone passes away?

Choosing a sympathy gift is all about showing the bereaved that you care. A good memorial gift doesn’t have to be anything specific, although flowers are a traditional funeral gift. If you want to give something a bit more unique then you could make the bereaved a gift basket or donate to charity in their loved one’s name. Anything that they can enjoy with their family makes good bereavement gifts such as chocolate, wine or a gift voucher for a restaurant.

What to write in a sympathy card?

When someone is suffering a loss, it is sometimes difficult to know what to write in a sympathy card. Trying to find the words to express your sympathy is tricky whether you know the person well or not. Sympathy card messages do not have to be long, but it is important that they are warm and comforting. People can take great comfort in your words so just try and express your condolences to them and their family.

What to wear to a funeral?

Many people find it difficult to know what to wear to a funeral, especially if it is their first time at this type of service. Knowing what is appropriate to wear to a funeral is quite simple. Black clothing is traditional at a funeral but not mandatory. Any dark coloured suit, dress or skirt is suitable. This along with a formal coat and black shoes is a perfectly acceptable funeral outfit. If you have any questions, ask your immediate family for guidance. You can also check the funeral invite, as some families do mention a theme colour or request no black, or contact the funeral directors and they will be able to let you know of any family requests.

What to bring to a funeral?

Going to a funeral is a difficult experience even if you did not know the deceased, a lot of people wonder what do you take to a funeral service? A traditional sympathy gift is flowers, but it is difficult to know what flowers do you bring to a funeral. Roses, Lilies, orchids, and chrysanthemums are all common funeral flowers. It is nice to accompany any flowers with a sympathy card, even a short message will be of great comfort to the bereaved. However, some families do request no flowers at funerals so make sure to check the invite first.